One mom took a new trend to social media… And it’s disturbing.
In the video, an IVF mom encourages other “IVF moms” to let their first child pick the gender of their next sibling. A toddler is shown choosing between two cookies, both pink, labeled “11” and “12.”
It’s framed like something cute or funny. Just a kid picking a cookie. But the meaning behind it runs a lot deeper than that.
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Which embryo stays in the freezer? ❄️
Would you let your child choose? ❄️IVF is not pro-life. pic.twitter.com/eKY2FMeQEY
— Josh Wood (@J_K_Wood) April 28, 2026
Commentator Josh Wood pointed out that in IVF, multiple embryos are often created at once, and not all of them end up being implanted. Some are frozen. Some are killed. So in a situation like this, what’s being casually turned into a “choice” between cookies is, in reality, tied to which children get a chance at life and which don’t.
That choice should never be in a person’s hands, let alone a toddler. Imagine the pain he could feel growing up, realizing he was the one who decided which of his siblings got to live and which were frozen indefinitely or killed.
That’s a hard thing to look at when it’s packaged as a social media trend.
IVF—short for in vitro fertilization—means fertilization happens in a lab instead of naturally in the body. Doctors usually create several embryos at once to increase the odds of a successful pregnancy. Then they pick the “best” ones to implant.
The rest may stay frozen indefinitely, killed, or destroyed for research.
And each embryo is a tiny human life at the earliest stage of development.
That’s why this trend is disturbing. Something that looks lighthearted online ends up brushing right up against a process where real human babies are being selected, stored, or killed.
No one is questioning that infertility is painful or that wanting children is one of the most deeply human desires in Life. That part is very real. But it’s also worth being honest about what the IVF process involves and what gets left out of most social media clips.
And behind all of this are real human lives—tiny, unseen, and often never given a voice in the conversation.
Just because something is trending doesn’t mean it’s harmless.
LifeNews Note: Ashlynn Lemos is the communications intern for Texas Right to Life.
